destroy the idea that romantic love is the ultimate goal and replace it with accepting your faults and loving yourself for who you are
wow im just going to leave this here
fucking ridiculous. you fucked up, dove. not that i’m surprised at all.
my politics is help my friends not die as much as possible
japanese people: yeah sure wear a kimono even though you are white, just know what it means and stands for! and just understand that by wearing this, you are paying respect to our culture! so please do so with careful thought!
white people on tumblr: IF U ARE WHITE nEVER WEAR A KIMONO DONT EVEN FUCKING LOOK AT IT !!!! CULTURAL APPROPRIATION 101 IF I CATCH U SMEELING A KIMONO I WILL KILL YOU UNTIL YOU ARE DEAD!!!!!!!! DONT EVEN GO TO JAPAN OR THINK ABOUT JAPAN JUST DIE
THISSSSSSSSS! This applies to Shinto and a lot of other Japanese cultural things. Unless something is stated to be explicitly off limits to a certain type of people (as in Priests versus normal people), the Japanese culture itself is happy that people want to be apart of their culture as long as their traditions are respected and not misused.
However, isn’t it also important to note that in these discussions, Westerners should perhaps pay particular attention to Japanese diaspora living abroad as much as they pay attention to, say, Kyary?
I’m sure Olivia had her own reasons for reblogging this, but she’s the only Japanese individual I know in Canada/the States who isn’t rubbed the wrong way by people feeling like they can claim Japanese cultural facets whenever they please. As Roma, I’m part of a culture that is also commodified with varying degrees of consent (mostly none), and I understand many Japanese people when they express frustration at Western ambivalence toward casually picking apart their culture for things to commercially consume.
Of course, Westerners can perhaps respectfully wear wafuku at the proper time and place in the West! There are times and places for that…but 9 times out of 10 — if not a higher frequency than even that — this mindful and respectful practice is not happening. After enduring that through generations of commodification and abuse, it’s completely acceptable for members of the Japanese diaspora to be tired of people grabbing at their culture and religion.
I come to this discussion as a mixed race Westerner living in the U.S. who’s spent time in Japan studying holistic wellness and Shinto and also as someone who is constantly striving for mindful practice in Shinto. I also come to this discussion as someone who sees actual Japanese people making these statements more than random white people on Tumblr. All a person has to do is follow or read ThisIsNotJapan to see this in action.
That being said, overzealous white people with serious white guilt complexes are ruining important discussions and taking up space where Japanese people need to be heard. That is TOTALLY a thing. It’s gross. It’s actually happening in the OP, minus the guilt.
Posts like OP’s, however, are usually just damn weeaboos or weeaboo apologists pitting native Japanese people and diaspora Japanese people against one another. Many friends in Japan have told me similar things regarding what’s acceptable…because they’ve never dealt with being the non-dominant race and culture in a country before.
This derailing nonsense perpetrated by Westerners like the OP has to stop. Western Shinto practitioners and kimono owners are often 100% welcome, but Westerners also have to look at the sordid history behind why ANY Japanese individual would be completely in the right to have severe misgivings about either.
#i’m sick of my friends being spoken over by white people using native japanese people’s words against other japanese people #that’s messed up #i think any mindful and respectful person would not take issue with these points #it’s indeed playing into OP’s hand by me explaining this as a Westerner #however i’m taking this work on so my exhausted Japanese sisters don’t have to #because they’re exhausted #because exotification commodification and objectification are EXHAUSTING #and they don’t need to be doing this if they have legitimate allies in solidarity
yeah! this has been rly getting to me too. like, sure some people will be cool with you doing shit others might see as being cultural appropriative. but surely, the fact that a group of people - minority or majority (depending where you are and who you talk with) - find it disrepectful and exhausting is sign enough to just think ‘hmmm best not’.
like, cultural appropriation is an issue because those who mind are being hurt deeply by the trivialisation and commodification of parts of their culture, and one single differing opinion can make those objectifying the culture go ‘oh well, they said it’s cool, so it must be cool’
as if those who care are being ‘overly sensitive’ or some kinda bullshit.
Haven’t enough minority voices been silenced or ignored for long enough? Why even take the risk? It’s not like mimicking that part of that culture is going to improve your overall lifestyle???
For stuff like this a good motto is: When in doubt, Don’t.
Don’t tell someone with a mental illness that you’ll always be there for them when what you really mean is “i’ll be there for you until your mental illness causes you to do something that I don’t understand.”
I found this decision chart I made a while ago